the magic of flirting
Flirting is the way most people determine whether or not a
member of the opposite sex is interested in them. Following is a quick
outline on how you should go about the complex, sometimes fun,
sometimes not so fun, task of flirting. It all beings with your
approach.
The Approach
One person approaches the other. They move into closer
physical proximity. This much is clear: NO approach equals NO
possibility of initiating contact. You must approach!
Example: A woman sits down next to a man in a coffee shop, or
a man stands near a woman in a dance club. This is the first step. Once
you approach, you begin looking for the signs.
The Signs
The person who has been approached will always signal the
other's presence in some way?a sign. This signal is not like a train
whistle, however, more a subtle body language which you can learn to
recognize. For example, he or she simply may look up, move over to make
room, nod slightly, or signal with a glancing eye contact.
A display of total obliviousness to the one who is approaching
generally indicates lack of interest altogether. Don't be discouraged.
But if the one you approached shows absolutely no interest, then it's
time to re-group and try again. But let's say the approach works. You
have your positive acknowledgement, now what? Time to talk
The Verbal Exchange
The two people may then engage in a mild verbal exchange about
impersonal, unimportant matters such as the weather or the scene around
them. The key word here is MILD.
This is the classic place for the clever "line," but
cleverness is not required. At this point, a verbal exchange is not for
the purpose of sharing valuable insights about life or determining
philosophical compatibility. It is just a vehicle to further the
developing contact.
Examples: Verbal overtures might include anything from "please
pass the pickles" to "your looking great tonight", to "have you seen
the waitress?". Without some form of verbal response, it is highly
unlikely that the next step will occur. Let's say all is going as
planned. Time for body language.
Body Language
Over a period of time, a couple that has begun to talk may
also begin to orient themselves physically to one another, to turn
toward one another until, if all is goes well, they are fully facing
one another. This is your goal.
This step can take minutes or hours . . . or weeks or months .
. . to achieve. Yet, without this physical reorientation toward one
another, not very much can ever happen, so give up on people who turn
their back toward you for long periods of time! But if they don't?
Touching
The woman or the man (most often the woman) touches the other
in a light, fleeting way. Examples: A couple might accidentally brush
their hands against one another while reaching for a drink, or the
woman might pat the man on the arm in the middle of a shared joke. The
exchange of very subtle, almost glancing touches may continue for some
while, and if all goes well, can escalate into the casual affections
shown by couples who are dating. If you've reached this point, then
flirting has now become the beginning of a relationship. The Art of
Flirting should always end with the beginning of a relationship. Now
get out there and flirt.
The Art of Flirting is really the Art of making first contact.
You only have one shot at making a great first impression. By following
some of the guidelines we've established in this article, you should
now be equipped to locate, approach, and ascertain whether or not your
subtle flirting has opened the doors to a new and exciting relationship.
By: Andre Leblanc
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Dangers
Of Using Rapport When First Learning How To Attract Women
A common mistake that is made when first learning how to attract women
is misusing the art of rapport. When it comes to rapport during an
interaction with a woman you are either leading or following. When
first starting out in an attempt to make sure that he truly does have
rapport many men will follow her lead for far too long.
How
to Initiate Conversations with Women
A funny joke and a cocky smile might get a girl's attention but if you
don't know how to continue the conversation there's not much point in
starting it. Even the wittiest of one liners followed by an awkward
silence is unlikely to lead to a good time.
Co-dependency
is an unhealthy reliance on another person for every thought, action,
and feeling.
Relationship
Advice for Men
I have written this article by request but want to begin by saying that
I in no way encourage men to treat women like objects.
How
To Use Goal Setting To Attract Women Instantly
Do you know the feeling you get after a date, where you know you
could've done more? The feeling that it was a failure?
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