the cyber lothario
Are you writing to someone who is romancing you off your feet?
Does this guy seem to know just what to say or write that gets you a
step or two further down the garden path?
Perhaps more dangerous than the notorious Internet rapists and
murderers are the Cyber Lotharios. Maybe you know one. Smooth as silk.
Seduction is his native language.
More dangerous, because these guys (well, maybe there are
girls too, but I am more familiar with the guys) are GOOD.
These guys are the Internet equivalent of a Bill Clinton, if
Bill Clinton hadn't gotten caught. They are the cyber version of
handsome -- they write beautifully, know just what you want to hear and
tell you. They POUR it on, and for a thirsty woman, it is nectar from
the Gods.
These fellows post on dating sites indefinitely, waiting for
the unsuspecting newbie to the dating site. You might contact him, he
might contact you, but like a used car salesman, he knows a pigeon when
he sees one.
Then slowly, softly, but determinably, he has his way with you.
How do you tell if you have one of these guys on the wire?
What if he is a really nice guy, really meaning every word he says?
Well, one thing would be if you find yourself agreeing to
things that you never would if you were in your right mind.
Particularly if that has to do with sex. Or maybe money.
These guys make manipulation feel like a warm bath. You just
slide right in and it feels delicious.
But there is a certain vagueness, particularly about past
relationships, and perhaps about future plans. These guys may reassure,
but they also will leave themselves a way out.
How can you tell?
Well, one thing you can do is ask for a relationship history.
Then pay attention to how he responds, as well as what he actually
says.
Does he groan and moan about doing the job? Is he grudging in
what he tells you? Or is he open and serious, understanding what you
are asking and why?
Does he seem to have trouble remembering his own history, what
her name was, what order the different relationships came in? Is he
reluctant to divulge, or does he sound like he is fudging?
Does he seem to be moving you fast towards a romantic getaway?
Maybe he makes plans for the two of you to meet, and reserves only one
room. Is he heavily sexually suggestive and titillating? Does he ask
questions like "What kind of lingerie are you wearing?"
Even though a new and legitimate relationship can be highly
sexually charged, a guy who is seriously interested in you and a
possible future with you will be protective and understanding of you
and your feelings.
If you feel antsy, pay attention. If your hormones may be
doing your thinking, put on the brakes. Better to let this dangerous
Clark Gable type swim away than to be left flat and busted.
Kathryn Lord, Romance Coach
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