Online Dating 101
Feeling like there's something that's just not quite there yet
in how you're going about this whole online dating thing? Don't feel
bad, chances are you're one of the many people who're still pretty new
to this gig. Heck, internet dating has only been around for about eight
years, so obviously no one out there can claim to have all the answers.
But hey, seeing that we've been perfecting the art of matching
people up online all eight of those years, we'd like to share a little
of what we've learned about how to make the best of your online
experience. Who knows, one of these pointers might be just what you've
been missing in perfecting your own online dating adventures.
Therefore, without further ramblings, here are the:
TOP 10 TIPS FOR SUCCESSFUL ONLINE DATING
SAY CHEESE! Look your best and submit a great photo of
yourself for your profile photo. A good picture really is worth a
thousand words, and research shows that you are nearly 10 times more
likely to be noticed if you post a photo to your profile.
And, the same stats hold true when you contact someone you've
noticed on the site. If you don't have a photo, don't be surprised if
the responses aren't too quick in coming back.
Now, don't get mad a start making accusations about all the
shallow people out there. While it may be true that some people place
too much emphasis on physical appearances, the bottom line is it does
make a difference when two people are meeting and making initial
evaluations of their interest in each other. And, it's also a trust
thing. It is always going to be much easier to interact with a face
than with a blank box.
FRESH IS GOOD Change your profile picture and greeting
occasionally, add photos to your photo album, and login regularly-this
will not only get you noticed, but it will help others get a more
varied and up-to-date idea of what constitutes the real you.
When something interesting happens in your life, tell us about
it in your profile greeting. This is a great way to let your online
friends in on what it might be like to actually spend time with you.
That's the main goal of online dating isn't it, to find people you'd
finally like to meet and spend time with face-to-face? Anyways, it's
always more fun to hear about a crazy experience you've just had than
to read the same old descriptions of you and your cat that have been on
your profile for months now.
As for photo albums, this is the icing on the cake. Not only
do these photos round out and confirm the physical picture your friends
are forming of you, but they also go a long way in helping others
really see what makes you "you." The head and shoulders shot of you in
your profile photo is nice and all, but when they see you hanging 10,
running with your Chihuahua, or shoving a big fat piece of cheesecake
in your mouth ? now they're getting to know you.
I HAVE CONFIDENCE IN ME Have fun describing yourself without
making excuses about why you're on the site or who convinced you to
finally go online. Tell us what makes you unique.
Believe it or not, being an online dater no longer places you
on the fringes of society or even in the minority. Online dating has
grown up and moved into the mainstream, and so you can now happily
assume that the face-saving qualifiers of past times online are now
obsolete. And, more importantly, just realize that they don't help your
cause when meeting others online.
One more thing ? try to be original. Yes, I'm sure you really
do like the outdoors and want to meet someone who looks good in a tux
and in jeans, but so does everyone else! Tell us some things about
yourself that wouldn't necessarily come out in an elevator conversation
with your tax accountant. For example, what are you passionate about?
What would you do if no longer had to work for a living? What's your
favorite flavor of gelato? Do you secretly wish everyday was sampling
day at the grocery store? ? now it' getting interesting!
HONESTY IS THE BEST POLICY Don't be fooled thinking telling
fibs will impress that special someone enough to get relationship
started... it will turn them off! Be your best self.
When you really stop and think about it, what do you think
your new friend's reaction is going to be if when you meet for the
first time it's obvious you're not the person they thought they were
going to be meeting? "Oh .. hi. I see that you've been dishonest with
me from the get-go here, but hey, I'm still thinking we've got a great
shot at having an open, trusting relationship for the long-term"
Obviously not.
They're going to be hurt, and disappointed. And, your
relationship is unlikely to get past the wave goodbye as your friend
gets back in their car to go home.
IT'S NICE TO BE NICE Okay, so you get a little grouchy once in
a while-don't we all? However, people like nice people. Please be
considerate and polite ? it will make this whole online thing so much
more enjoyable for all of us!
There's an interesting social phenomenon researchers have
discovered in online interactions. They've found people often change
their standards of politeness and diplomacy when a conversation is
happening online, versus face-to-face.
Don't believe it? You might be surprised if you were to go
back and look at some of the things you've said. Look at some messages
you've sent, and then consider saying the exact same words in a
face-to-face or a telephone conversation. Sound a little rough? Don't
feel too bad, it happens to the best of us, just try to keep this in
mind the next time you're typing out an email or instant message.
One more thing-please don't ignore people. A quick "thanks,
but no thanks" note is so much better than no reply at all. In fact,
next time you're replying to a message on the site, check out the new
"Thanks but No Thanks" template. It's a quick way to nicely let someone
know you're not interested in corresponding.
YOU CAN PICK YOUR FRIENDS ? Invite your friends along! Create
Activity Groups, go on group dates, try Express Dating, enjoy travel
events, and just enjoy the net together. After all, instant messaging
alone isn't enough to build solid relationships.
Group dating and group events simply make a lot of sense for
online dating. Not only does it make those first dates less stressful,
it often makes them more fun, and it definitely makes first meetings a
much safer proposition.
Have you ever tried Activity Groups? They're a great way to
meet people with common interests in a safe, fun group setting. You can
join a group that's already been created, or you can create your own
and invite all your friends to join ? and their friends ? and their
friends ? you get the point.
BREAK OUTA THAT SHELL Don't be afraid to make the first
contact. Online dating makes it easy for all you shy ones out there to
break the ice, because you get to do all the initial getting to know
each other from the comfort and safety of your own computer.
To start, just send a Flirt or a quick email message saying
Hi-and do it often! You might be surprised how many of our great
members suffer from lack of attention from their online peers. Not only
might you find someone with whom you're very interested in maintaining
contact, but you'll probably be making someone's day.
EXPAND YOUR HORIZONS If your first internet efforts haven't
turned up "the perfect one," don't despair. Hundreds of new people sign
up every day on the site, so just come back to see Who's New. You may
also want to consider expanding your searches-don't be too intent on
sticking to your itemized checklist for eternal mates.
You might also want to try some different searches from time
to time. Because there are about a million different things you might
find attractive in another person, it's nice to mix up the criteria
you're searching on once in a while. For example, you can search by
their Occupation, any Keyword or combination of keywords you can think
of, and many others.
UH OH ? THIS MIGHT ACTUALLY BE FUN! Don't be afraid to have
some fun along your path to relationship happiness! Enjoy getting to
know people and understand that many happy relationships and even
marriages start with a good ol' friendship. And, don't rush it!
You've heard animals can sense fear? Well, we humans can be
pretty perceptive as well (except for that one guy who just can't take
a hint). So, don't think others can't sense when you're frustrated,
dejected, conceited, holier than thou, fed up, etc. etc. Put a smile
on, and enjoy the ride, because even if the first few people you meet
aren't Mr./Mrs. Right, it doesn't mean you can't have some fun in good
conversations with them.
You may also need to be a little bit patient as you head off
into the brave new world of online dating. Not all marriages are "love
at first site," and even if yours is, it may take a lot of looking
before you "site" that special someone. And so, once again ? enjoy the
ride!
USE YOUR NOODLE Ya know, that gray matter between your ears?
That's your noodle. Use it! Be smart, be cautious, and follow our
safety guidelines, your instincts, and the spirit in all your dating
activity.
Done right, online dating is a lot of fun, and it's a great
way to meet some wonderful people ? just ask the thousand-plus people
we've had submit success stories to us in the past few years! So, enjoy
it, and follow these ten tips, and hopefully we'll be getting a success
story from you sometime soon.
Online Dating 101 by Kevin Koger
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