How to Find and Define a Partner

I will write much about this subject but I will limit this article to a series of questions. and ideas to stimulate some thought. Remember there are many ways to find that special person, find one that resonates with you and put it into practice,

Think of the benefits if it works for you. Is it worth a try?

In order to find YOUR perfect mate, It would best suit you to ask yourself a series of questions, the answers you give will lead you to a more concrete idea of what is best for you. Sometimes what we want and what me need don't match up.

What you believe will ultimately be your reality and life experience, once we can identify our beliefs and how they shape our lives, we can understand ourselves better.

Q1 Do you believe you deserve the best?

Putting yourself down and having low self-esteem means you will only attract a certain type of person, who will keep you down and needs to feed of your insecurity to make themselves feel superior.

Q2 Do you love yourself, take care of your body think positively about yourself?

People will treat you how allow them to.The more highly you think of yourself the higher your expectations will be.

Q3 In finding a partner do you believe in fate, good luck, divine intervention or a bigger plan?

List the 3 main relationships you have had in your life,

Think about how you met and where you met,

Think about the probabilities involved in you having met that person at that time in your life who later became a boyfriend or girlfriend. It happened before it can happen again.

Q4 How do your beliefs affect your approach to finding a partner?

Do you trust in God, the universe, fate your angels or just yourself? Are you relaxed about the situation or desperate? Trusting in something else other than yourself will make the process more positive.

Q5 Are you enjoying the moment?

True happiness is a state of mind not determined by external circumstances. The happier you are the more people will be attracted to you and want to spend time with you.

Q6 Do you have an itch?

There is a term called "The seven year itch" every seven years on average we go through major changes, which alter who our ideal partner would be.

Think about your past relationships, where would you be today if you had stayed together. Would they be your ideal partner today. You may be going through a transition regarding the type of person you normally go for. If that is the case, being single at this moment will benefit you, as you will be able to identify more clearly what you want.

Q7 What benefits are there of being single?

You always win the argument and as Woody Allen says "I get to have sex with someone I love, myself"

Being single gives you the chance to find and redefine yourself, quantify your values and determine what you do and don't want from a relationship. In order to receive something big we need to create space for it. Your next partner should compliment the person that you are, and fill the void that is there, without the void there is nothing for them to move into and fill, so live in positive expectation.

In closing

No one is perfect and everyone is perfect a paradox, having a lasting fulfilling relationship requires give and take, and a lot of love and a bit of lust.

The more you love someone for who they are not what they are and what they have the more perfect they will be in your eyes. Finding an ideal mate starts with us knowing what we want and being the best that we can be ourselves. When we have in our minds those two areas and are positive we will be in a place where we can attract our future partner and more importantly realize the opportunities when they come along.

In my next article I will write about the practical side of how to go about finding a partner, and give some specific tips to men and women.