cyber cheapskates and net gold diggers
Did you know that Match.com has around twelve million members,
but only a million or so of those listed have paid their dues?
The most asked questions from Romance Clients? "Why don't they
answer my emails?" Well, first off, you don't know and never will. But
it's a pretty good guess is that this guy or lady is cheap.
If you have had much experience as an Internet dater, you've
undoubtedly had the experience of putting out first email contacts to
prospective Sweetheart and then gotten no answer back. A response rate
of 30% to first emails is considered good!
On Match.com as well as many of the other Internet dating
sites, you can post a profile for free, but you have to pay to email
other listers or respond to emails sent to you.
You can't tell the payers from the freeloaders. And people who
aren't paid members can't email, either to contact you first, or to
answer when you write. That means that a very high percentage of those
people you are carefully looking over are too cheap to pay less than a
dollar a day to be able to email you!
Maybe that's a lot of what's behind the 30% who do get back to
you. They're the only ones who are paid up!
Though I live now in Mississippi with my new husband Drew, I'm
from Maine. I still own a house there on a beautiful island in the
mid-coast area, so I get back to visit once or twice a year. Every
spring, after the snow melts, all the debris that has accumulated over
the winter along the roadsides gets exposed to the light of day. And
along with tulips and daffodils, up spring the "For Sale" signs.
For years I wondered about why so many houses came up for sale
every spring. Every other house seems to be on the market.
Finally, someone explained to me that lots of folks just put
out those "For Sale" signs sort of for sport. All the locals know that
summer people are heading this way, and those "city folks" have very
distorted ideas about fair property values. So the sport is to put out
a "For Sale" sign, ask a very inflated price, and see if anyone will
bite. If you're lucky and catch a rich one, you just may be able to
fund your retirement. Otherwise, life goes on, you get to stay in your
house, and then try again next year. Sounds like a form of digging for
gold to me.
Believe it or not, lots of people who are listed on dating
sites are doing just that: They put out their "For Sale" sign with
their profile and look like they are seriously "in the market" for a
Sweetheart. Really, they have a way over-inflated idea of what they can
get and are waiting to see if some fool will bite. These folks have
stuck out their "For Sale" sign, but they aren't seriously looking.
Except for the jackpot.
In the Internet dating world, this is deceptive advertising in
the worse way, because the reader has no way of knowing if the profiler
they are interested in is really serious and a paid-up member or not.
The ONLY people on these online dating sites who are emailing anyone
are the ones who have paid! All the others are freeloading teases.
If you are considering CyberRomance or are already posted on a
site or two, pay your dues like a grown-up. Do your part to contribute
to the energy and integrity of this wonderful resource for singles. If
there's a time to "put your money where your mouth is," this is it. If
you're serious, pay up. If you're not serious, stay out of the game.
Kathryn Lord, Romance Coach
Helping singles find someone wonderful!
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Attracting
Women Who Are Too Busy To See You
Sometimes when you think a woman is attracted to you in reality she
only likes you even though the path to attraction is still open.
How
Do Girls Play Hard To Get
I bet that the reason for you to read this is because most probably you
have met girls who play hard to get before.
Who
Says You Cant Guarantee A Great Date
Up to this point, you may be wondering; what now? Well, it is vitally
important that you put all the steps we have shared together into a
logical sequence and Stick to IT! One must recall that it is us men who
are qualifying her into our lives, once who we will want to begin
sharing our life together. Most men allow the women to qualify us! This
puts the ball in their court and you lose all control.
The
magic of flirting
is the way most people determine whether or not a member of the
opposite sex is interested in them.
For
Guys - Making a Great First Impression with a Woman
If you're looking for advice on how to pick up a woman at a bar, this
isn't it, but if you'd like to know how to build a friendship with the
opposite sex, then stay. Not that I'm the guru of first impressions,
but what the heck, even an unwound clock is right twice a day.
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