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6 Steps to Find The Person of Your Dreams

Finding your ideal partner or mate will be a life long quest for some a pipe dream for others and a reality for a few. Some people will just go with whoever shows any form of interest in them.

Much can be said about this subject, but i will try and list a few pointers,

1) Before you think about finding your soul mate find yourself. Finding yourself means, getting to a place where you are happy and positive about life doing the things you want to do, without thinking negatively about your lack of romantic action. This will make you more attractive in every way.

2) Have an idea about the sort of person you would like to be with, don't sell yourself short or be unrealistic.

Ask yourself "What do I have to offer what are my qualities"?

3) It starts with you, don't have a mindset of finding a partner to complete your life, a partner should enhance it, Don't put that added pressure onto a prospective partner. You are already complete.

4) Don't get desperate, be yourself be natural. The energy of desperation is unappealing to most people, it also portrays a lack of confidence, balance, immaturity and low values.

Have you ever been in a shop and the shop assistant continually harassed you about buying a product, Did that forthright mentality endear you to stay longer in the shop and purchase a product, or did it have the opposite effect ?

5) Be open with the right people (same and opposite sex) about your situation, don't be aloof and put up a barrier that says "I don't want you to know " let people know that you are looking for a relationship with the right person. Most people are not mind-readers.

6) Practice smiling more especially at the opposite sex, make it a natural part of your day, enjoy the process of finding that ideal person.

When you find that person

Don't try to change them, If you want to change someone change yourself, as Ghandi said "Be the change you want to see" If they are meant to be with you will both naturally change to compliment each other better. Trust nature in this

Allow them time and space to be themselves and make changes in their lives. Being joined at the hip or keeping a diary of their hourly movements will severely strain the relationship and drive them away long term.

Don't drop your friends, they will probably still be around when your relationship ends.

I am not being pessimistic I am being realistic, if it wasn't so most people would only have ever had one partner in their life.

Love them without condition not with conditions. Conditional love will only last a short time.